People ask me what my take on this is.
My take on this… he is a seriously fucked up bloke into BDSM and he is so fucked up he thought everyone was into the same extreme BDSM that he is. He did not understand the difference between consent and “people in awe of being near him” or “people so totally financially and emotionally dependent on him that they endured it”. He saw tacit consent where it had not been given explicitly.
I’ve messed around in the BDSM and D/s scenes albeit in the digital realm, and I admit I was more into the ‘sensual dominance’ area rather than the degradation and denigration realm. I don’t respond well to that. I don’t do pain and I don’t do denigration.
Anyway, my experience is that you establish expectations and you establish safewords and then you respect them.
It seems he did not.
I don’t have a problem with the piss drinking and the abuse / denigration. Some slaves love that. Not my thing but I know subs who love it. I could tell you some stories from sisters-in-collar and sub friends.
But what I have a problem with is it looks like he did not understand consent.
At the end of the day, BDSM is (or should be) by consent. The bottom yields by consent and that consent should be able to be withdrawn by a simple utterance of a safeword. If you don’t have that then it is abuse. The sub/bottom/slave has to ultimately hold the power / keys for it to be anything else. If they are held beyond their will then that becomes abuse.
For what it’s worth my safe phrase is “Stop, and I fucking mean it”. I do not mess around.
I think some of his genius comes from how fucked up he is. But consent is the bottom line. And I think he lost sight of that.
And that is my opinion on this